Hi,

Happy Monday! It’s time for the last three months of 2024—how will you make it count?

Remember: You are magic today, tomorrow and every day✨

This month, I’m sharing my thoughts and personal experience on how the way we talk to ourselves and others completely changes our actions and our moods.

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Key Takeaways

• Our words are SO important; that includes our self-talk.

• If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all

• Surround yourself with good people—people who lift you up and make you believe you can do it!

Why don’t we show ourselves the same love and respect we show our loved ones?

When I was growing up, I’d often hear, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” A very valid sentiment, but I always assumed this meant saying things out loud to others. What about the words we tell ourselves? The words no one else hears. Shouldn’t the same sentiment apply?

The decision to walk away from the corporate world, all I’ve ever known, and start my own business wasn’t easy; in fact, it was terrifying and I almost talked myself out of it.

The overwhelming love and support I received from my friends and family was amazing. It was their support that ultimately was louder than my own doubtful self-talk that allowed me to quieten my inner critic and take the leap. Their genuine encouragement gave me the courage to follow my interests and turn over a new leaf.

One of my best friends was so excited for me and regularly told me how proud she was of me for taking the leap and following my intuition. She expressed how happy she was to see me happy and how amazing she thought this path was for me. She is part of my cheer team and I love her for that.

Shortly after her loving words and tremendous belief in me, this same friend decided to take unpaid leave and move across the world. I, too, cheered her on, loudly and genuinely. I congratulated her on her courage and shared my excitement for her, good things were coming.

When I visited her in her new home, it took me by surprise how hard she was being on herself.

“I feel guilty not doing anything.”

“I should be working, shouldn’t I?”

“It feels wrong to be in this position.”

“I can’t do nothing.”

The change in her language and tone when she was speaking to and about herself was so different from the way she had spoken to me. Yet, when I thought about it, how surprised was I? I had done the exact same thing to myself, the way I cheered her on, was not the same way I had spoken to myself.

“I can’t do this; I should stick to the safe path and what I know.”

“Who do I think I am, going for my dream?”

“If I’m going to do it, I need to be doing something 24/7.”

“I’m not ready; I can’t do it.”

Why weren’t we showing ourselves the same love and support we had so easily and effortlessly shown each other?

I couldn’t help but wonder: if we had spoken to ourselves the way we had spoken to each other, would we have found our transitions easier and more enjoyable, without needing so much external validation?

Why are we so hard on ourselves? Why don’t we show ourselves the same love and respect we show our loved ones?

My monthly challenge is to actively call yourself out the next time you notice you’re talking down to yourself. Stop and think about the way you’d have the same conversation with a loved one and have that same conversation with yourself.

Hit reply and let me know if you can relate to this story.

Shine bright.

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